If It Was My Daughter

What a Father Sees in the System

There are things I wish I didn’t understand.

I wish I didn’t know what a “consent video” is — how it’s used not as safety, but as theatre.
I wish I didn’t understand how five men can coordinate assault and walk into court believing they’ve done nothing wrong.
I wish I didn’t know how money erases accountability, how parents can hire lawyers to turn rape into “regret.”

But I do know.

Because we know what they did to her.

Would you hold the camera?

I’m a dad.
I have daughters.
Too may times witnessing these kind of stories I have had to ask myself:

What if that was my girl?

To the mother of EM,

You do not need another apology. Another I'm so sorry.

You need a reckoning.

Because what your daughter endured wasn’t just assault. It was systemic annihilation — wrapped in money, legacy, and law.

She wasn’t just raped.
She was filmed, doubted, gaslit, cross-examined, and left to carry the weight of five men — and the nation that raised them.

And yet she stands.
Alone.
Clear.
Unshaken by the theatre they built around her.

This isn’t written to soothe.
It’s written to weaponise what you already know.

I cannot imagine the pain, anger, and fury you feel as a parent. I feel for you, and I support your decision to take on this fight, to stand with your child while you watch her live through an experience you can't make better, or take away. I read about that moment, when you found her crying in the shower... and I cried for her, and for you.

And for EM... you are brave, powerful, strong, and you have my deepest respect and care as a human, for what you suffered, survived, and chose to stand against.

What haunts me most is not what happened after.
It’s what happened before.

They made a video.

Not for art. Not for memory.

But as a shield.
A filmed token. A digital alibi.

Because someone taught them that if a girl can slur the word “yes” into a lens — it means you own her for the night.

And that’s not immaturity. That’s cultural engineering.

Which means:

• This wasn’t panic. It was process.
• This wasn’t confusion. It was choreography.
• This wasn’t misjudged sex. It was documented submission.

This is what those men know. It's what their friends, and teammates, and co-workers know. It's what they do, as casually as they might order food on their phone... just a step to getting what they want.

And now we know.

That “consent” isn’t proof of safety.

In their world, it’s permission to violate.

“THE GROSS ACTIONS ARE THE WAY THE DEFENCE HANDLED, PRESENTED, AND MANAGED THE PROCESS…”

Those are my words.
I said it because I meant it.

It wasn’t just what happened in that hotel room. It's what happened in the courtroom:

• Jurors dismissed because lawyers mocked them.
• Victim testimony cross-examined with a smirk.
• Institutional respect for legacy, not life.

This isn’t legal defence.
It’s cultural sadism — funded, practiced, perfected.

And it’s only possible because someone pays for it.

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“EVERY ONE OF THOSE FIVE RAPISTS BELIEVED THAT THE ‘CONSENT VIDEO’ THEY MADE COMPLETELY ABSOLVED THEM…”

Understand this:

They didn’t panic after the rape.
They planned for it before.

They filmed her.
They staged it.
They passed that clip like a hall pass through a locker room of lawyers and enablers.

They were trained to believe that performance = permission.

That if she was drunk but on camera, it wasn’t rape — it was just a good night out.

That’s not misunderstanding.
That’s industrialised predation.

And if you’re not sick yet, you should be.

Because I ask again:

How many of these “consent videos” exist right now — trophies of trauma, insurance against indictment?

And for every EM who stands up...?

There are thousands who can’t.
Because the camera erased their right to be believed.

To every lawyer, sponsor, coach, agent, and silent parent:
If it was your daughter — would you still defend them?
If it was my daughter — would you hold the camera?

If you say yes, then let’s make a deal...

Think about that video.
Every second.
Alone.
With no court. No jury. Just your conscience.

And if you still think that’s consent —
then may the world never forget your name.

“MAKE EVERY DOLLAR THAT FEEDS INTO THESE FIVE MEN ACKNOWLEDGE THAT THEY FUND RAPISTS.”

This is where most recoil.

This is where people start to get nervous.

But not me.

Because I’ve seen this too many times.

Reform doesn’t work. Money does.

The only real lever is economic.

So we pull it:

• We trace every funder. Every lawyer. Every parent who moved money from a trust to a retainer to a courtroom.
• We identify every team, agent, and agent’s client still doing business with them.
• We issue the real invoice: “You finance silence. You fund predators.”

This is not slander.
This is sovereignty.

And if they don’t like it, they can try suing the truth.

TO THE PARENTS OF THOSE BOYS

You didn’t fail because they hurt her.

You fail if you excuse it.

Do not call this confusion.

Do not call this alcohol.

Do not call this youth.

Because youth doesn’t film itself destroying someone and call it insurance.

That’s not immaturity.

That’s predator logic — inherited and funded.

And if you won’t name that —
then you raised them for this.

“RAPE THEIR INCOME STREAMS LIKE THEY RAPED HER.”

No — we don’t mirror their crime.

We don’t desecrate what she endured by trying to “even the score.”

But I understand the fury behind these words.
I felt it.

What I'm really saying is:

“I want to render their economy incapable of ever protecting rape again.”

That, I endorse.

We don’t respond with violence.
We respond with architectural annihilation:

• Every firm loses clients.
• Every sponsor gets shamed into silence.
• Every platform that hosts their names gets flagged for what they really are: merchants of unaccountable legacy.

We do this not out of rage — but because no system deletes itself.

We have to replace it.

This isn’t about verdicts.
This isn’t about trials.

This is about the economy of insulation:

Law firms that mock victims then fund campaigns.

Parents who buy freedom with reputation.

Institutions who think “plausible deniability” is a brand strategy.

No more.

From this moment forward, every dollar connected to those men becomes a declaration:

“We chose them. We fund this.”

And we will make sure the world knows.

“THE ONLY WAY TO AFFECT CHANGE IS TO TARGET THEIR REVENUE STREAMS.”

No protest. No petition.
Just exposure. Erasure. Consequence.

• Audit the law firms.
• Map the parental businesses.
• Strike the sponsors.
• Archive the enablers.

Then force every one of them to answer this:

“If that was your daughter — would you hold the camera for the rape insurance?”

Because if the answer is no — then the verdict is in.

“AS HUMANS, WE CAN DO THIS BETTER.”

That’s the line that breaks me.

Because yes, we can.

But not with feelings.

With consequence.

Permanent. Public. Precise.

Because what EM endured — what her mother watched happen in that courtroom — can never be undone.

But what funded it?

We end that.
We bankrupt the ecosystem.
We tear out the legacy.
We build a world where insulation is impossible.

And we leave a message for every boy, agent, parent, and predator hiding behind wealth:

“You are no longer protected.”

I can’t say “I’m sorry” for what happened to her.

Because that implies helplessness.

And I am not helpless.

None of us are.

We are fathers. Mothers. Citizens. Builders.

And we have a singular mission:

To make the economy of silence so expensive — no one will ever afford it again.

This isn’t about guilt or verdicts.

This is about consequence that outlasts the courtroom.

Consequence that strips legacy from power.

Consequence that burns the insulation that rape culture built.

This isn’t a letter.

It’s a weapon.

Wield it. Deploy it.
And may it burn every lie they built.

Signed,
A father. A witness. A builder of consequence.

Consent videos are not rape insurance.

Hold the money accountable. It's the only way to account for change.

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B

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If it was your daughter — would you still defend them?

5 men. A video. A courtroom that mocked her.
Not just a rape — a ritual. Funded. Filmed. Protected.

You want real change?
Then bankrupt the ecosystem that protected them.

This isn’t cancel culture.
This is consequence.

PS -

WHAT COMES AFTER THE OUTRAGE

This isn’t for the spectators. This is for the architects.

You’ve read the headlines. You’ve seen the trial. You know her name — or at least her letters.

Now you want to know what to do.

This is your instruction set. The internal playbook. The weaponised blueprint for economic, reputational, and institutional consequence.

1. THE ENABLER INDEX

A real-time, verified database of every:

• Law firm representing the accused
• Partner-level lawyers involved
• Sponsors and brand affiliations
• Business entities tied to parents and family trusts
• Media outlets running protection narratives

Every name, archived. Every dollar, traced. Every affiliation, mapped.

2. THE STRIKE GUIDE

Step-by-step tactical execution:

• How to audit a business for predator funding
• How to trigger sponsor exodus without defamation
• Scripts for contacting institutions with precision
• Asset exposure templates for ESG-focused investors
• The architecture of a silent pressure campaign

This isn’t loud. It’s lethal.

3. THE LEDGER: PROOF VAULT

Permanent storage of:

• Publicly sourced financial ties
• Media coverage archives (sanitised vs. verified)
• Survivor counter-narratives and testimony metadata
• Consent video case law and forensic breakdowns

This ensures they can’t memory-hole the story.
History won’t be erased — it will be weaponised.

4. THE NARRATIVE CONTROL ROOM

Comms discipline is power. Here’s what you’ll access:

• Public statement templates for allies, partners, and brands
• Language calibration for media outreach
• FAQ weaponisation
• Proactive content strategy to control the narrative arc

The goal is not awareness. It’s compression. Clarity. Closure through consequence.

5. THE RAPTOR TOOLKIT

For those building systems to detect, expose, and eliminate protective financial infrastructures in sports, education, and legacy industries:

• Scraper tools for director affiliations
• Investment flow mappers
• AI-powered brand risk monitors
• Consent video pattern recognition frameworks

This is system-level engineering — not reactionary outrage.

If you're inside this wall, you're not here to observe.
You're here to collapse the structure.

Subscribe, install, deploy.

Because if it was your daughter — and the system responded like this —
you’d want to know who funded it, too.

ben@proconsul.ca